communication

My Dream-Me is pretty harsh…

Angela Spang

I have embarked on the daunting journey of writing a book….or three, more accurately. Apparently I have a lot to say (who knew)…

I have always been a fan of objective viewing of self, as we tend to be either overly critical or alternatively not clear on our strengths and how we should manage them in relation to other people (and their potential shortcomings in the same area), but I have to say that I am taking it to a new level now!

The other day I woke up in the middle of a dream, and clearly the book writing challenge has made quite an impact — I am obviously pretty occupied with the idea since I was actually DREAMING about it. This is slightly concerning since I haven’t actually written a SINGLE word yet! I am worried what is to come.

Stick to Twitter

Dream-Me

I woke up offended.

My Dream-Me was telling my real me to “stick to Twitter”. Ouch. I am all for straight communication, but that is HARSH feedback to someone who hasn’t even started writing yet! Clearly Dream-Me is not wasting any time! She isn’t wrong though: I have said for years that I like Twitter — the limitation of characters is a challenge and a blessing — better be succinct and not waffle. I have seen the same tendencies in myself when it comes to writing: I struggle with filling in long blank spaces in applications for funding or similar (maybe that’s why I never applied for anything apart from an epic double failure in a Horizon2020 application a couple of years back where the second attempt was actually scored WORSE than the FIRST one. I gave up after that.).

Realise when you are not the best person for the job

One of my strengths as a leader is to put the right person in the right place. I match make well between people and roles, and sometimes I see futures for people that they may have not realised themselves. This strength is useful here….I have absolutely no plans to become a writer. Just because I have STORIES to tell doesn’t make me a writer…those are different things. People who believe that authors should only write their own stories or you aren’t a real author if you don’t do the actual writing yourself haven’t thought long enough about it, imho.

After all, Authors have editors, illustrators, designers….and they use computers 😉

I will have a writing partner

She will take the jumbled words, the blurry memories, the ugly and unsaid, the beauty and the magic…and she will use her skill and talent to turn my secrets and my scars into something that we can all learn from. I will have to trust her; I know it will require me to be brave. I will tell her things I have never told anyone, and I am already scared.

Maybe that is why my Dream-Me is saying stick to Twitter. She is not wrong.

Will you read my books?

Netiquette

Participate. In the online environment, it’s not enough just to turn up. If you don’t join in no one will know that you are there!

Share questions and tips. Questions you post to the discussion forums will help others, and taking part in discussions will help you to learn. It is often the case that where a participant encounters a problem, it is the experience of the other participants that is most valuable in developing a solution.

Think before you click. Before you post your comments, check through what you have written. It’s always helpful to check if you have written what you meant to write and to think about how the people reading your words will react.

Remember that we can’t see the grin on your face. Help us ‘see’ you by explaining your ideas fully. You could also use an emoticon, such as 😉 to let the reader know that your comment is meant to be ironic or funny.

Remember there is a person who will be reading your message. Because visual clues are often lacking in online communication, electronic messages can easily seem harsher than they are intended to be. If you disagree with what someone has said, please bear this in mind as you express that disagreement.

Keep your messages short and to the point. When composing your  messages, aim to express your thoughts concisely. Obviously you will want to explain your point, but if you write a very long message it has the same effect as someone ‘holding forth’ or ‘rambling’ in a face-to-face discussion. Lengthy postings do not hold people’s attention and are less likely to get a response.

Use paragraphs to break up your text. Even relatively short messages can be difficult to read online unless they are broken up.

Any derogatory or inappropriate comments are unacceptable. 

Content from GS10k with thanks

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